It is interesting how we can believe that we have forgiven people when we have actually not. I am saying this out of experience. I have always believed that I had forgiven my father, this however was not true. Deep down in my heart I still had not forgiven my father even though I was saying that I had. It was deep deceit. The problem with deceit is that you believe a lie. Even though I was born again, I still had unforgiveness in my heart. It took deliverance for me to forgive my father. It was like facing reality. It is amazing how the Lord shows us stuff in our hearts. Now I can clearly say that I have forgiven my father. It was not easy to face it, but I did by the grace of God. I felt like all the problems i have ever had were caused by him. A BIG LIE. We always have a choice.
Seasoned non judgemental progressive counsellor